Kwentong Ulan

Malamig, basa, baha sa paligid lalo na sa Pasong Tamo, lahat may dalang payong, stranded, trapik, brownout, maruming tubig, late sa trabaho... ilan lang yan sa mga naiisip ko kapag panahon ng tag ulan.

Since na music lover ako, hinanap ko rin ang ilan sa mga kanta na may title na ulan or rain..(produkto ng pagiging idle sa trabaho hehehe).. Heto at pakinggan nyo.

My 2nd AVP

Last night I tried to create our 2nd AVP, tutal madami dami na rin kaming pictures.. Di naman sya maganda pero mapagtatyagaan na rin. I really like the song... Song of hope and love... naks!!


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Linggo errr Buwan Ng Mga Wika

habang naghahanap ako ng isusulat para sa entry ko, napansin ko itong article from Manila Times, last year pa sya pero mukhang akmang akma sya doon sa theme ng Buwan ng Wika ngayon...

Speaking in tongues–Pilipino-style
Comic-book author Carlo J. Caparas and National Language Commission chairman Ricardo Nolasco celebrate Buwan ng Wika

By Rome Jorge
Manila Times Internet Edition
August 13, 2006

IT is not Linggo ng Wika; it’s Buwan ng Wika. It’s not Abakada and Tagalog; it’s ABCD and Pilipino. It’s no longer Taglish as a language borrowed and corrupted; it’s now translation and code switching as proof of comprehension and multilingual mastery. It’s more than just stodgy textbooks and formal oratorical balagtasan; it’s also a celebration of comic-book lore and street corner kwentuhan. It’s no longer Isang Bansa, Isang Diwa; it’s now Buwan ng Wikang Pambansa ay Buwan ng mga Wika sa Pilipinas.



Our languages are growing and changing. Beyond barely spoken formal-textbook examples, they are alive and screaming. And there’s no better proof than how 2006’s Buwan ng Wika brings together a man of immense academic credentials and invigorating ideas, National Language Commission (Komisyon ng Wikang Filipino or KWF) chairman and Doctor in Linguistics Ricardo Nolasco; and a man often underestimated by the intelligentsia: pop culture icon, author of 800 novels of which 200 were translated into films, and comic-book creator most noted for the modern mythology of Panday, Carlo J. Caparas. Poles apart, they are both speaking as one and celebrating diversity. So should we.

From August 1 to 31 we celebrate Philippine Languages Month in a way unheard of. From poetry competitions in panggalatok at the Pangasinan State University to the Gantimpalang Carlo J. Caparas Storytelling Competitions at the Marikina River Banks Center, events across the nation celebrate the 170 languages across the 7,100 islands of the nation, as well as the true champions of linguistic dissemination long derided by purist academicians: comic books, movies and television.

Nolasco explains, “Buwan ng Wikang Pambansa ay Buwan ng mga Wika sa Pilipinas is a pitch for linguistic diversity. Isang Bansa, Isang Diwa was the slogan during the martial-law regime and that promoted dangerous ideas such as that having many languages was disadvantageous to the country—and that’s not correct.”

A word for everyone

“We are 10th in linguistic diversity in the world,” Nolasco notes. “There are 7,000 languages among 200 nation states. Majority of people across the globe, even those from the most progressive countries, are neither monocultural nor monolingual.” Nolasco declares, “To be multilingual is the norm—in the world and in the Philippines. We should not be ashamed of it; we should promote it.”

He elaborates, “Many think we have only one language and that is Pilipino and that the rest of the speech varieties are just dialects—and we know that belittles these languages. The difference between a dialect and a language is mutual intelligibility. Example: if a Cebuano speaks his or her language to an Ilocano speaker, they won’t understand each other. Tagalog has many dialects: Tagalog Bulacan, Tagalog Quezon, Tagalog Batangas etc.—they all have their own accents but they all understand each other.

“I’m all for teaching English. But we should also teach Japanese, Chinese and Spanish. You cannot put all your eggs in one basket. It is true that you cannot survive the world without English. But you cannot survive if you know only English. To speak only one language is to be selected for extinction,” he opines.

As for Taglish (Tagalog-English fusion), he counters purists, contending, “The aim of literacy is a functional language.” He notes, “Whether Taglish is acceptable is not the point. If this is happening at the University of the Philippines [UP], what more in other places?” A study of Barbara Garland for the University of California documented UP students reading lessons in English, discussing them with teachers in Pilipino and Taglish, then answering exams and assignments in English again. “This is phenomenal. There is no better proof of understanding than translation,” cites Nolasco.

“If you talk about Taglish as a corrupted and borrowed language, then English is the most corrupted language,” Nolasco says. The etymology of the word “soldier” is French, “assassin” is Arabic and “boondocks” is Tagalog. “How did they modernize English? Why deny themselves the same strategy?” Nolasco reasons.

“Each of the languages a person speaks plays a different role in his or her life,” he notes. He explains that “nanay,” “mommy” and “ermats” all mean the same thing, but that there are some situations where one usage is more appropriate than the other. “Why worry? Kids know when to use it,” he says.

Instead, the forward-thinking linguist castigates conservative language czars: “Akala nila alam nila. Pero sa totoo lang hindi nila gets.”

He is even more unforgiving of self-proclaimed foreign experts on Pilipino language. “They thing they know,” he says of them. He illustrates that “hinalikan ko siya” and “humalik ako sa kanya” both translate as “I kissed her” in English. The difference is indistinguishable to a foreigner, but to a Filipino the former connotes brutish and the later respectful behavior.

He concedes, “Many students have been turned-off with the way the national language has been taught. Pilipino was taught using English categories with too much emphasis on grammar.” He explains that unlike English, any word in Pilipino can become a noun, a verb or an adjective with the proper affixes and suffixes.

Instead Nolasco likes to use metaphors we can identify with. The “pinakbet hypothesis” notes that just as this dish is comprised of various vegetables that have foreign origins (okra and eggplant are native species of Africa) yet still identifiably Ilocano in the way it is cooked, so too is our language made richer by foreign and regional ingredients used in our own unique way. The “sapinsapin hypothesis” replaces categorization of Filipino words as nouns, verbs or adjectives and instead teaches the language by stripping down a word of its suffixes and prefixes step by step to arrive at the root word, much like the layers of the sweet rice cake.

This fresh approach to our language is already being implemented in the latest textbooks from the KWF and now sees its fruition in Buwan ng Wika.

The mythology of Carlo J. Caparas

A poster for the Philippine Languages Month illustrated in comic book-style with cartoon balloons in various regional languages celebrates not only our diversity but also pays tribute to the effectiveness of pop culture in promoting the usage of the national language.

“Remember that that usage of the national language spread because of komiks, movies and TV. It is a medium that has been belittled in the past. This is our way of recognizing the role of komiks. Remember that each copy was often read not by one but as many as ten people,” says Nolasco.

It makes perfect sense that Nolasco has enlisted the talent of Carlo J. Caparas, comic-book creator, novelist and movie director of some of the most indelible pulp fiction. The at the Marikina River Gantimpalang Carlo J. Caparas Storytelling Competitions Banks Center was made possible by the local government of Marikina and the KWF.

“Ibang klase. It heartens to know the new generation of kwentistas [storytellers],” says Caparas, given the participation of so many youths with no remuneration in the continuing competition bearing his name. “You know it’s real when appreciation comes before compensation.” “I’m also glad someone from academe like Nolasco has given me this opportunity.”

Caparas, who has always captured the imagination of the masses with his stories and who will always be known as the creator of mythical folk hero Panday [The Blacksmith], reveals the secret to his appeal: “I want to further the past. I don’t want to let go of our folklore. I always want to be around our tikbalangs, kapres and lamang lupas [mythical beings].”

He narrates with all the color and detail you would expect from a master storyteller of how long ago by the Pasig River, Barangay Ugong, now the place for mansions of the exclusive Valle Verde subdivisions, was once truly a verdant valley tilled by men whose fair skin grew pink with sun—the illegitimate children of Spanish friars to whom land once sequestered by the Church now belonged. “They looked like movie stars,” Caparas recalls. It was in that valley for four years that the young Caparas, a poor boy who could not continue his studies because the school for the fourth grade lay on the other side of the river—a costly banka and jeepney ride twice daily his family could ill afford—was educated in the art of storytelling by these same farmers.

As their errand boy for such items as fish sauce, he was compensated by stories of how these men trapped and slew a vicious aswang or of how they spotted a tikbalang ambling among the trees at night. Caparas learned of our oral tradition from its source—from the very men who were its protagonists.

It was fantasy fulfillment when years later, his story for Atlas Comics of a poor blacksmith who forges a magical sword to rid a land beset by oppressors would be enacted by National Artist Fernando Poe Jr., a mestizo not unlike the fair-skinned farming friends of his youth.

“My revenge was with my novels. As with Lumuhod Ka sa Lupa [Grovel on Dirt], the story is of a pauper rising to power, making rich women plead for his love,” Caparas explains.

The veteran scores today’s storytellers of being too high-minded and faddish with their expensive glossy, Japanese manga derived comic books that only more affluent children can now afford. “I can talk to anyone, be they farmers or communist rebels,” he says.

“My first responsibility is to entertain,” declares Caparas. Education will only follow when people are listening and watching. And it takes a storyteller to capture people’s imagination.

Lore and linguistics come together now as folk storytellers such as Carlo J. Caparas and policy makers such as Komisyon ng Wikang Filipino Ricardo Nolasco come together to make the Philippine languages come alive. Mabuhay ang mga pambansang wika, gets?

Globe TAWAD Promo

Win exciting prices at Globe's Tawad Na Promo. Just text "TAWAD " to 2350. Example, TAWAD 1.23 then send to 2350. Minimum bid is 1.00. Bidding starts at 7:00 am up to 11:59 pm daily.

Down the Drain

From NPI Head --> Group Head --> "Content Manager" --> "Content Manager" aka Test Analyst....

What's Next????

Time to look for another job before I encounter another Burnout.....

My first AVP

This is my first AVP I created for hon. It was a gift for our 2nd monthsary. Kakatawa nga kasi sobrang konti pa ng pics that time, puro ako pa. It took 11 secs per frame para lang ma play lahat ng themsongs namin hahahah!!!


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Linggo ng Wika: Wika2007 Blog Writing Contest

Linggo ng Wika, nung high school ako, palagi kami naghahanda ng palatuntunan para ipagdiwang ang Linggo ng wika. May Oratorical, declamation, sabayang pagbigkas, slogan at poster making contest. Akala ko kapag nasa school lng ako mag oobserve ng Linggo ng Wika, hindi pala....

Habang nagsesearch ako ng OPM top 10, naligaw ang browser ko sa isang advertisment na nakatawag ng atensyon ko:

Excerpt from
http://www.pinoyblogosphere.com/wika2007
wika2007@pinoyblogosphere.com

Wika2007 Blog Writing Contest
The Wika2007 Blog Writing Contest is a group writing effort aiming to trumpet the beauty and strength of the Filipino Language in line with this year’s Buwan ng Wika theme: “Maraming Wika, Matatag na Bansa” (Free translation: “A gift of tongues for a strong nation”). With the significance of the Internet in shaping the culture today, blogging about the Language will not only enforce the online Filipinos’ love for their native tongue, but also promote it to bloggers around the world.

The submission of entries will officially start on August 6, 2007, and shall end on August 18, 2007. Judging shall be from August 20 to 25, 2007. The winning entry will be announced at the Pinoy Blogosphere site on August 29, 2007

Prizes

Grand Prize: Php5,000 + 1yr Domain Registration. + 1yr 100mb hosting
Second prize: Php3,000 + 1yr Domain Registration + 1yr 100mb hosting
Third prize: Php1,000 + 1yr Domain Registration + 1yr 100mb hosting
plus consolation prizes…

Hmmm nakasali nga heheheh...

Dadaanin Ko na lang sa Kanta -- Whhhaaaaattt???????

After 99 years ng paghahanap, sa wakas nakita ko rin hayyy!!!!

Sensya ala pang lyrics.. maghahanap pa ako ..

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Ako si Eagleman!

Nung high school ako, part ako ng youth choir (di ko alam kung paano ako napasok don!). Meron kaming 2 songs na kinakanta madalas, Dadaanin ko na lang sa kanta (14k) and yun Like an Eagle. Yun dadaanin, di ko na ata mabilang kung ilang beses namin pinerform yun. Di pa nakuntento yun choir conductor namin at dinala pa kami sa mga baranggay para kumanta (ewwwww!!!).

Feel ko yun Like an Eagle don't know if spiritual song sya, basta everytime na kakantahin namin yun nakakapangilabot. Basta ang ganda!

One time, accidentally nasearch ko yun lyrics + midi nya sa net, at sa tulong ni Allan (HS classmate ko), naconvert namin yun song to WAV then to MP3, sa wakas masasalang ko na sya dito heheh.

Nakakamiss ang mga kasama ko sa choir, naalala ko noon, panay practice kahit masakit na lalamunan. Bukod sa weekends, nag overnight pa kami para lang magpractice, ang meryenda yun ulog ulog na may luya. Pero ang masaya, kung saan saan kami nakarating para lang magcompete, sa Legazpi for National Music Competitions for Young Artist (NAMCYA), then sa Sorsogon (SAYAWIT), at iba pa.

Ngayong mga gurang na kami, nagkikita pa rin kami minsan sa isang taon. Gustung gusto ko na nagvivideoke kami kasi ang gaganda ng boses nilang lahat! (pwera ako), Di ba ang sarap kayang pakinggan ng ganon..

Ngayon ko lang narealize na malalim pala ang message nung Like an Eagle... gaya ng nangyari sa amin.. sama sama kami sa choir, marami kaming pinagdaanan at natutunan, pero kailangan naming maghiwa hiwalay para abutin ang pangarap ng bawat isa. At ngayong nagkaroon ng chance na magkita kita muli, masaya ang lahat para sa achievements ng bawat isa.

May isa akong dream... ang buo ulit kaming makapagperform sa high school namin hehehehe!

Like an Eagle
Carl Strommen

Now is the time
To follow the wind
To walk alone

And a star will show the way
Above the clouds
Beyond the sea
And now is the time
And now and farewell
And as we part
You taught me well
You gave me strength
You showed the way
I'll not forget you

Like an eagle
I will soar above the clouds
I will spread my wings and fly into the sun
Like an eagle I will race above the stars
I will fly to places yet unseen
Go beyond my wildest dreams
Know that you are watching over me

And all alone
I will follow the stars above
As my guide

As my guide
I trust in you
To show the way to me
Beyond the sea

And now is the time
And now and farewell
And as we part
You taught me well
You gave me strength
You showed the wayI'll not forget you

Like an eagle I will race above the stars
I will spread my wings and fly into the sun
Like an eagle I will race above the stars
I will fly to places yet unseen
Go beyond my wildest dreams
Know that you are watching over me
Alone,

I can fly with the eagle to the mountain high
Race with the eagle so far beyond my dreams
Like an eagle I will fly

Like an eagle I will race above the stars
I will spread my wings and fly into the sun
Like an eagle I will soar above the clouds
I will fly to places yet unseen
Go beyond my wildest dreams
Know that you are watching over me
Like and eagle I will race above the stars
Like an eagle I will fly
Like an eagle I will fly

I'm gonna fly the highest mountain(Fly)
Fly above the clouds
Like an eagle I will fly

Lie Detector

For me, the steps below really works, sabi nga nila daig ko pa daw ang NBI investigator manghuli ng nagsisinungaling... But before you talk to your subject (sus NBI talaga hahaha), make sure that you gather enough info para di ka naman mapahiya hehehe!

Introduction
There are often cues and signs that someone may be lying. There may also be understandable reasons for the lie.


Steps

Step One
Look for body language that might indicate someone is lying, such as not looking you in the eye when speaking to you, being fidgety, or acting nervous or uncomfortable.

Step Two
Listen for inconsistencies in what the person tells you, such as different stories on different days, different time frames, mistakes in remembering details or mixing up details.

** another tip, try to ask questions non stop then go back to your 1st question. If his/her answer is different from the 1st one... something's wrong...

Step Three
Notice if the person steadfastly resists answering any questions. Extreme defensiveness could mean that he or she is trying to hide something.

Step Four
Notice if the person accuses you of lying or being deceitful when you really haven't been. This could reflect the other person's own underlying behavior, which he or she is projecting onto you rather than owning up to it.


Step Five
Listen to your gut and intuition. You may just know someone is lying. If you are not sure, don't jump to conclusions. Try to get some evidence to back up your hunch.

Step Six
Consider asking directly if the person has lied to you. Many people feel bad getting caught up in lies, and find it a relief to finally be honest.

Step Seven
Try to be understanding and listen to the person's reasons for lying. Was he trying not to hurt you? Was she afraid you would be angry, upset or disappointed?

Step Eight
Look at your possible role in having someone lie to you. Are you someone who gets so upset hearing the truth that others feel they can't be honest with you?

A letter to the one God has prepared for me..

I am wondering at this very minute if you are thinking of me. If like me, you are wondering what is taking us so long to find each other. Many times I thought I finally found you only to be disillusioned by the fact that my wait has not yet ended. I get up each morning hoping, dreaming, longing to meet you.

I am thinking of how we will meet. Would it be as romantic as the ones I've seen in movies? Or is it possible that I have known you all my life but we have yet to realize that we are meant for each other? Oh how I wish you were here right now because you are the only one who has the answers to all my questions.

Sometimes I ask myself if I have ever really known LOVE. I do not have the answer to that question either but I believe that, more often than not, we will never really know what love is until we find that right person. And since I have not found you yet, then maybe I do not really know what love is.

You just don't know how often I dream of finally knowing what it feels like to be in your arms. even at this very moment I am imagining how you will simply sweep me off my feet! perhaps I would be drawn to you by your smile, or your eyes, or maybe even how you manage to make me laugh by your silly little ways. I don't really know for sure but I am praying that God will help me recognize you when the right time comes. I think of all the pain that I have gone through and of how much I cried since the day I began my search. I just wanted you to know that I find strength in clinging onto my vision of the beautiful life ahead of me. The life I shall spend with you. In my mind and in my heart I know that you are worth all the pain and sacrifice.


After all, the tears have become a part of my life, and I believe that they are slowly washing away my flaws so that I would become perfect. Not perfect in its truest sense, but perfect for YOU! I wonder if you've gone through so much pain as well. I wonder if you've been hurt so many times along the journey. BUT my dearest one, please don't ever give up because I am right here... patiently waiting for you... I assure you that when we finally find each other, I would slowly heal those wounds by my love.

At night, I would look out my window and stare at the beautiful sky, hoping that somehow you are looking up and wondering about me too. I utter a silent prayer and send all my cries to the heavens above, thinking that in time they would reach you. And when I feel impatient, I just close my eyes and believe that you are on your way and that you are longing to see me as well. It's funny but when I finally fall asleep, it is still you I think of, for you are always in my dreams. It seems that for now, that is the only place where I can hold on to you. Long enough to tell you how much I love you. In my dreams you would kiss away my fears and wrap me with tour arms of love.

and this, all the more makes me want to wake up and face the new day ahead of me with hope that soon enough, you will no longer be a dream but a reality and once again I am assured that you are worth the wait. and when that time comes, everything will fall into its place, just as I had imagined, just as I had thought and dreamed, just as I believed it would be... by then I would simply look back and smile at all that I have gone through, in spite of the pain and amidst the simple joys of life. and I would be very thankful because they all led me to you!

In the meantime, take care of yourself foe me. Hold on to our dream and don't even think of letting go. Believe in your heart that we will find each other no matter what happens. God has planned the course and it is up to us to follow the directions. Don’t worry, don't be afraid about getting lost. God saw to it that all the roads, no matter which one you choose to follow, lead to me.

Ulirang Ina

Kagabi, meron ginawa ang mama ko na hindi ko inaasahan, at hinding hindi ko ito makakalimutan habang buhay.

Di ko man ito nasasabi ng harapan, pero gusto ko po ma malaman mo na napakaswerte ko at ikaw ang naging mama ko.

Di ko man po ito sa iyo nabigay ng personal... sana magustuhan mo po ang munting regalo ko para sa inyo.


I love you so much ma. Happy mother's day!

Gusto kong Maging Senador

Kaya pala itong mga kandidato natin eh halos magpakamatay na sa pangangapanya para lng manalo...

Nagbago na ang pangarap ko... gusto ko na ding maging senador!!! Hahahahha!

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ANG SARAP MAGING SENADOR!
Maganda rin naman ang naidudulot ng pagiging prangka ni Senador MiriamDefensor-Santiago. Ayon kay Santiago, marami ang tumatakbong Senadordahil sa laki ng budget na ibinibigay sa kanila kada buwan.

Lumalabas na P35,000 suweldo nila kada buwan ay pakitang-tao lang samilyun-milyong budget ng bawat senador. Kada buwan ay may Fixed Monthly Budget ang bawat Senador ng humigit-kumulang P2 Milyon.

Sa opisina pa lang nila ay humigit-kumulang P500,000 and budget nila saMaintenance and Operating Expenses (Rental, Utilities, Supplies atDomestic Travels) at P500,000 para sa Staff at Personal expenses. Kaya para makatipid ang ibang Senador, kaunti lang ang staff na kinukuha nila. Nagtataka kapakung bakit mayroong mga Ghost Employee?

Bukod diyan, may P760,000 allowance pa sila kada buwan para naman saForeign Travel. At ang masakit pa nito, hindi na kailngan i-liquidate ang mga resibong mga gastusin 'yan kundi Certification lang ang Requirement.

Heto pa, lahat sila ay Chairman ng mg Komite sa Senado. Ang CommitteeChairman ay tumatanggap din ng budget na sinlaki ng tinatanggap ng mgaSenador na humigit-kumulang P1 Milyon din! Hindi sila mawawalan ngKomite dahil 24 lang ang ating mga Senador at 37 naman ang Committee sa Senado. There's food for everybody 'ika nga! Lumalabas na doble ang kanilang benepesiyo at kita kapag sila ay nabiyayaan ng Committee Chairmanship.

Sa P200 milyon na Budget para sa Pork Barrel ng mga Senador bawat taon,awtomatikong may 10% na S.O.P. o kita ng Senador na P20 milyon. Ito angporsiyento na ibinibigay ng mga kontratista sa mga Senador na nagbibigaysa kanila ng mga Infrastructure at Livelihood Project.
Bago matapos ang termino ng isang Senador, kumita na siya ng P100 milyon sa Pork Barrel pa lang. Yung ibang Senador mas gahaman, hindi lang 10% kundi 20- 30% ang komisyon hinihingi sa mga kontratista.

Pansinin niyo na lang ang pagbabago ng buhay ng ilan sa ating mgaSenador simula nang manungkulan sa puwesto. Kung dati ay simple lang ang kanilang pamumuhay ngayon ay nakatira na sila sa mga eksklusibong subdivision, maraming bahay sa Pilipinas at abroad at mahigit lima ang sasakyan.

Ngayon nagtataka ka pa ba kung bakit gumagastos ng daan-daang milyongpiso ang mga Senador sa kampanya para sa isang posisyon na P35,000 lang ang suweldo kada buwan? Bawing-bawi pala ang gastos kapag naupo na!
ANG SARAP MAGING SENADOR ! ! !

PLEASE FORWARD TO AS MANY OF YOUR FRIENDS AND LET THE WHOLE COUNTRY KNOWTHAT ELECTION IS MORE OF PUTTING AMBITIOUS PEOPLE IN POSITION WHO ARE GREEDY IN POWER, WEALTH & PRESTIGE THAN OF PUBLIC SERVICE. ANG MASAKIT PA PERA NGBAYAN PARIN GAGAMITIN SA ELEKSYON MALUKLOK LANG ANG MGA BUWAYA SA PWESTO

Anniversary Blues

After a looooonnnnggggg year of storm (yup! last year was the worst one for us), finally, Honey and I had our 2nd year anniversary last Saturday (May 5). As expected, we did not have the chance to celebrate it together (as usual, work and school prio).

My original plan was to send him a scrapbook, unfortumately, I didnt have the time to do it though I already thought of the concept and even bought the materials as early as April. Since time is running short I need to think of plan B.

May 1. I texted Erol (Hon's bestfriend) to help me with my surprise plan, however, due to "some" reasons which I don't know, I never get a reply from him(hmmm something fishy in here). On May 3, I had a chat with Madir Leonor if she can help me with the stuff. She said "akong bahala dyan!", so I send the money through Gcash as well as the delivery address and message. Madir you're my angel!!!!

On friday night (May 4), Annie texted me that Niña (Hon's older sis) will be coming along with her. Yup! we planned to watch spiderman 3 on Saturday with my brother Mervin. Niña and Annie? Hmmmm, this will be a perfect time for bonding heheheheh!!!!

May 5, 12:00 am, Hon texted me with "Happy Anniversary Honey ko, I love you so much!", and I replied hon. After 5 mins my alarm rang with a message "Jessie, 2". I kissed Justin and greet happy birthday and went back to sleep.

May 5, 10 am, Hon texted me with "Nareceive ko na yun flowers! Ang ganda!!! Mwah". Hehehehe, that was my surprise. Courtesy of Madir Leonor, we sent Hon a dozen of white roses with blue balloons. Luckily, antipaktita wasn't in the office that time, for sure, she'll gonna get the flowers.. Ooopsss sorry antipaktita those flowers are for Mama myr... not for you... (shrug)

May 5, 4pm, I met up with Niña and Annie (Hon's sisters) at Glorietta 4. Ooooooh! super dami tao, we manage to buy tickets for 6pm show. Since it's still 5pm, we went to some appliance and furniture centers.

The movie was ok, except that it's konting nakakabitin sa ending (hey what do you expect in a film having 3 plots! Aside from the fact that its the end of the Spiderman trilogy). After watching, we went to Food Choices and ate at Dencio's.

The following day, I bought my MP4 player. That was Hon's gift for me hehehehehe.... no element of surprise huh!!! In fairness to hon, I really want an MP4 player, unfortunately, MP4s in Legazpi are quite expensive and konti lang ang choices. So we decided na dito na lang sa Manila bumili since its cheaper and maraming choices...Any way.. bottomline is its still a gift from my Honey and I love it!!!

Well... what do I expect for our 3rd year? Hmmm... I wish, no more problems that will force us decide on something that we'll regret forever.....

As of now, Im already collating infos for our "great day", knowing me na gusto organized lahat, I really want to plan as early as possible para magkasya din sa budget and walang maiwan na small details.

And of course... save save save... :)


Happy Anniversary Honey. I love you so much!!

Marrying the Wrong Person

and they lived happily ever after...

Eh pano kung si Prince Charming eh mascara lang pala ni Mr Monster, anong gagawin mo? At least sa states me divorce, eh pano ngayon, nasa Pinas ka, e di tiis na lang forever?

Kaya sa mga singles, kahit gaano nyo man kalove si Prince Charming nyo, basahin nyo ang mga sumusunod na guidelines para maiwasan ang mga Mr. Monster na nagpapanggap na Prince Charming.

TEN WAYS TO MARRY THE WRONG PERSON

By Dov Heller

With the divorce rate over 50%, too many are apparently making a serious
mistake in deciding whom to spend the rest of their life with. To avoid
becoming a "statistic," try to internalize 10 insights.

1. You pick the wrong person because you expect him/her to change
after you're married. The classic mistake! NEVER MARRY POTENTIAL!! The
Golden Rule is, if you can't be happy with the person the way he or she
is now, don't get married. As a colleague of mine so wisely put it,
"You actually can expect people to change after their married...for the
worst!" So when it comes to the other person's spirituality, character,
personal hygiene, communication skills, and personal habits, make sure
you can live with these as they are now. It's as good as it gets!

2. You pick the wrong person because you focus more on chemistry
than their character. Chemistry ignites the fire, but good character
keeps it burning. Beware of the "I'm in love" syndrome. "I'm in love"
often means, "I'm in lust." Attraction is there, but have you carefully
checked out this person's character? Here are four characteristics to
definitely check for:
· Humility: Does this person believe that "doing the
right thing" is more important than personal comfort?
· Kindness: Does this person enjoy giving pleasure to
other people? How does s/he treat people s/he doesn't have to
be nice to? Does s/he do volunteer work? Give to charity?
· Responsibility: Can I depend on this person to do what
s/he says s/he's going to do?
· Happiness: Does this person like himself? Does s/he
enjoy life? s/he emotionally stable? Ask yourself: Do I want to
be more like this person? Do I want to have a child with this
person? Would I like my child to turn out like him or her?

3. You choose the wrong person because you do not share a common
life, goal and priorities. There are three basic ways we connect with
another person:
(1) Chemistry and compatibility,
(2) Share common interests and
(3)Share a life goal.
Make sure you share a deeper level of connection that sharing life goals
provide.
After marriage, the two of you will either grow together or grow apart.
To avoid growing apart, you must figure out what you're living for while
you are single-and then find someone who has come to the same conclusion
as you. This is the true definition of a soul mate. A soul mate is a goal
mate... two people who ultimately share the same understanding of life's
purpose and therefore share the same priorities, values and goals.

4. You pick the wrong person because you do not have deeper
emotional connection. To evaluate whether you have a deeper emotional
connection or not, ask: "Do I respect and admire this person?" This
does not mean, "Am I impressed by this person?" We are impressed by a
Mercedes. We do not respect someone because they own a Mercedes. Yes,
you should be impressed by qualities of creativity, loyalty,
determination, etc., but do you actually respect and admire this person
who possesses these qualities? Also ask: "Do I trust this person?" This
also means, "Is he/she emotionally stable? Do I feel I can rely on
him/her?

5. You pick the wrong person because you choose someone with whom
you don't feel emotionally safe. Ask yourself the following questions:
Do I feel calm, peaceful and relaxed with this person? Can I fully be
myself, and express myself with this person? Does this person make me
feel good about myself? Do you have a really close friend who makes you
feel this way? Make sure the person you marry makes you feel the same
way! (That's why best friends usually fall under this category
perfectly! But that's another story...) Are you afraid of this person
in any way? You should not feel you need to monitor what you say
because you are afraid of how the other person will view it. If you're
afraid to express your feelings and opinions openly, there's a problem
with the relationship. Another aspect of feeling safe is that you don't
feel the other person is trying to control you. Controlling behaviors
are a sign of an abusive person. Be on the lookout out for someone who
is always trying to change you. There is a big difference between
"controlling" and "making suggestions." A suggestion is made for your
benefit; a control statement is made for their benefit.

6. You pick the wrong person because you don't put everything on the
table. Anything that bothers you about the relationship must be brought
up for discussion. Bringing up the uncomfortable stuff is the only way
to evaluate how well the two of you communicate, negotiate, and work
together. Over the course of a lifetime, difficulties will inevitably
arise. You need to know now, before making a commitment: Can you
resolve your differences and find compromises that work for both of
you? Never be afraid to let the person know what bothers you. This is
also a way for you to test how vulnerable you can be with this person.
If you can't be vulnerable, you can't be intimate. The two go hand in
hand.

7. You pick the wrong person because you use the relationship to
escape from personal problems and unhappiness. If you are unhappy and
single, you'll probably be unhappy and married, too. Marriage does not
fix personal, psychological and emotional problems. If anything,
marriage will exacerbate them. If you are not happy with yourself and
your life, take responsibility to fix it now while you are single.
You'll feel better and your future spouse will thank you.

8. You choose the wrong person because you get involved sexually too
quickly. This can be a big problem because it often precludes a fully
honest exploration of important issues. Sexual involvement tends to
cloud one's mind. And a clouded mind is not inclined to make good
decisions. It is not necessary to "test drive" in order to find out if
a couple are sexually compatible. If you do your homework and make sure
you are intellectually and emotionally compatible, you don't have to
worry about sexual compatibility. Of all the studies on divorce, sexual
incompatibility is never cited as a main reason why people divorce.

9. You pick the wrong person because the man doesn't understand what
a woman needs most. Men and women have unique emotional needs (Men are
from Mars...Women are from Venus!) and more often than not, it is the
man who just doesn't get it. The unique need of a woman is to be loved,
to feel that she is the most important person in her husband's life.
The husband needs to give her consistent, quality attention. Sexual
intimacy is always on the woman's terms. Men are goal oriented
especially when it comes to this area. As a wise woman once pointed
out, "Men have two speeds: on and off." Women are experience oriented.
When a man is able to switch gears and become more experience-oriented,
he will discover what makes his wife very happy. When the man forgets
about his own needs and focuses on giving his wife pleasure, amazing
things will happen.

10. You pick the wrong person because he/she is involved in a
triangle. To be "triangulated" means a person is emotionally dependent
on someone or something else while trying to develop a relationship.
But of course, being "triangulated" with God is the best triangulation
you could have with your partner! A person who hasn't separated from
his or her parents is a classic example of triangulation. People can
also be triangulated with things as well, such as work, drugs,
Internet, hobbies, sports or money. Be careful that you and your
partner are free of triangles. The person caught in a triangle cannot
be fully emotionally available to you. You'll not be their number one
priority. And that's not basis for a marriage. Ability is what you're
capable of doing.