Recording Artist daw

Pampawala ng stress.

Try this site >Sims On Stage. Pipili ka ng songs then irerecord mo. Tapos you have the option kung isasave mo as private or public yun song mo. Kapag public, i-rarate ng mga viewers yun songs mo. You can also join contest kung feeling mo pang singer ang boses mo...

Ang saya!

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Chronic Lie

Hmmmmm!!! Very Interesting.

Got this from Newsdial.com

What is a Chronic Lie, Pathological Liar, and the Effects?
By Joe Tracy, Publisher of NEWSdial.com

Lying is a major social issue that destroys relationships, friendships, businesses, stock value, and even starts wars.

On a personal level, lies destroy trust, relationships, and friendships. So why do people lie? And how does a chronic lie differ from a non-chronic lie? How do you identify a pathological liar? What can be done about this? How big, exactly, is the problem?

According to a study in a 1996 issue of the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, titled “Lying in Everyday Life,” it was found that college students lie on average of two times a day while the general public usually lies once a day.

Basically, a chronic lie is a lie that is built upon a lie. Many times a person will make a lie “bigger and bigger” by building upon a lie (even when caught). This is a chronic lie. A chronic liar (or pathological liar) is a person who can’t stop lying. They usually tell more lies than truths.

There is much debate as to whether pathological (or chronic) lying is a disease (mental illness), learned behavior, addiction, impulse behavior, symptom of something deeper or a mix of several factors.

“ Lying is common, and in its many aspects forms a normal part of social interchange,” writes Don Grubin, MD, in an article titled “Commentary: Getting at the Truth about Pathological Lying” that was published in the 2005 Journal of the American Academy of Psychiatry. “…Clearly, to be a pathological liar, an individual must lie on more than a few occasions, but how frequent does the behavior have to be? Is the scale of the lie really important, or does this just make the pathological liar easier to spot? And why is it relevant that the lies seem pointless? From a psychiatric point of view, lying is simply a type of behavior, albeit a complex one, that demands an appreciation of the abstract concept of truth. What makes a behavior psychiatrically abnormal is not its degree or its purpose, but the extent to which the individual has power over it. The fact that a behavior may cause the individual more harm than good and that there does not seem to be a rational reason for it may be indicators of psychiatric morbidity, but neither is necessary or sufficient to establish a disorder. What these indicators suggest, however, is an apparent lack of control. For pathological lying to exist, therefore, the individual must lie despite himself, just as someone with an anxiety disorder cannot help feeling anxious.”

So what do you do as a parent if you are concerned about your child’s lies? In an article by Michael G. Conner. Psy.D., titled “The Heart of Anxiety, Panic, Phobias, & Lying” he states the following:

“Understanding the relationship between fear and lying is one of the best ways to deal with children if they start lying. Children lie because they are afraid to tell the truth or face the truth. Children who lie have usually had experiences where they subsequently learned that telling the truth is more uncomfortable than lying. Most of the time children first learn to lie by watching their friends, family or strangers lie.”

In essence, children need to be praised for telling the truth. The punishment of lying needs to be greater than the punishment for being honest. Kids are like dogs; they love praise. Provide positive feedback and support when a child tells the truth; even if that truth gets them into trouble. Be sure to separate the punishment from the praise. You don’t want a child associating both as one!

It’s very important that you try to curb lying in your child as soon as possible. If your child’s lying tendencies become chronic then punishment may be ineffective and counseling may be the only “solution”.

Now that may sound good to you, but how (besides praising a child) can you get them to stop lying? When you train a dog, you work with them on a particular “trick” over and over and over until that trick becomes a routine. Likewise, you must work on the concept of honesty with a child over and over until being honest becomes routine for that child.

For example, why not role-play with a child? Children love to act and role-play, so create a series of role-playing “edugames” that teaches a child the importance of telling the truth. Give them a situation and have them practice telling the truth. “You just broke mommy’s prize vase and you know she’ll be upset. You could blame the dog, but you know that being honest is what is right. So how would you tell her?” Then have the child act it out.

When lying becomes a routine, a person becomes a pathological liar. Lying is so instilled in that person that they can mumble off a lie without a second thought. When confronted with one lie they, without a moment’s hesitation, lie more to “cover up” the original lie (making it a chronic lie). Many times, a pathological liar may believe his or her own lies! When a person reaches the level of pathological liar, usually only counseling can “cure” them. There’s no magic herb for lying – only counseling to determine the issue and address the solution.

Unfortunately, there is not enough research into chronic lying to fully understand it (what causes it, at least, as we all know the effects). Perhaps the January 3, 2003 issue of Psychiatric News sums it up best when author Ken Hausman stated, “Pathological lying has rarely appeared on the psychiatric radar screen in recent years, remaining a poorly understood concept with serious ramifications.”

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Unfair reason?

Katatapos ko lang manood ng "The Heartbreak Kid", imbes na matuwa ako. asar na asar ako sa character ni Ben Stiller...

Bigyan ko lang kayo ng konting summary ng movie (from wikipedia:

Eddie (Ben Stiller), the owner of a sports shop, is single and indecisive about starting a relationship. While walking down the street he witnesses a purse snatcher victimizing Lila (Malin Åkerman). After failing to retrieve the purse, they exchange pleasantries and eventually date. They quickly become serious, as they seem perfect for each other. Pushed by the urging of his father (Jerry Stiller) and best friend (Rob Corddry), Eddie proposes to Lila and they are married. However, during their honeymoon in Mexico Eddie begins to question his decision, as it becomes increasingly apparent how mismatched the couple is: while driving down to Mexico, Lila continuously sings songs while listening to a blasting radio, much to the irritation of Eddie. When he asks her to stop, she abruptly suggests that they "fuck". In the scene that follows, Lila and Eddy have sex so violently it actually causes Eddy physical pain. Then the following morning she insists they hold hands during breakfast. And so on and so forth. After suntanning with only "baby oil" (ignoring Eddie's advice to wear sunscreen) Lila is severely burned and has to stay in the hotel room for several days. Eddie has the opportunity to spend some time alone and reflect on the marriage while Lila is confined to the room.

As he realizes the mistake he has made, Eddie meets Miranda (Michelle Monaghan), another vacationer, at a bar. It's almost immediately obvious that Eddie and Miranda are a perfect match. With Lila in the room, Eddie devotes large amounts of his honeymoon time to Miranda. When Lila confronts Eddie about his absences he makes up a story about a potentially huge business investor he is trying to butter up. Faced with the overwhelming schism between Lila and him, and the obviously perfect match between Miranda and him, Eddie decides to break up with Lila. In the chaos surrounding his breakup with Lila, the entire situation becomes apparent to both her and Miranda. Both abandon him, and his passport is destroyed in the mayhem.

Without a passport, Eddie is forced to cross the U.S. border illegally. In several scenes, Eddie is caught by border patrol officers while others escape by the hundreds. After an extensive effort to get into the country he goes to Oxford, MS and finds Miranda. He sneaks into her house late at night and offers her an ultimatum: marry him, or turn down true love. Unfortunately, she has since married, and he is rejected.

A year and a half later, Eddie has moved to Mexico. Miranda comes down on vacation, informing him that she made a mistake and wants to be with him. It is then revealed that Eddie has a new wife, Consuela (Eva Longoria), and he is once again thrust into the situation he was previously in.

Ok sabihin na natin medyo may diperensya ang character ni Lila, pero it doens't mean na meron reason si Eddie na maghanap ng iba... on the time of their honeymoon? And gosh, Eddie had known Lila for 6 weeks yet madami pa rin syang nadiscover, and how about Miranda? Only for a week?? How sure si Eddie na true love nya si Miranda? How sure si Eddie na magiging maganda ang pagsasama nila? How sure si Eddie na perfect ang qualities ni Miranda?

Isa pang napansin ko sa character ni Eddie, umabot sya ng 40 years old because takot sya sa commitment, every girl na naging kanya is may reklamo sya. After Lila, nagkaron ulit sya ng new found wife na si Eva, and he's confused na naman dahil bumabalik si Miranda? Hindi kaya si Eddie ang may diperensa at hindi si Lila????

Isa pang kinaiinisan ko.... while nakakulong si Lila sa room nya dahil sa sunburn, ang daming rason ni Eddie, na kesyo may nagbar sya kesyo may client.. which is hindi naman totoo dahil nakikipagkita lang naman sya kay Miranda, GRRRRRRR!!!!!

Hindi lang ito ang movie na asar na asar ako.. another one is "My Super Ex-Girlfriend". If I remember correctly, kaya inayawan ni Luke Wilson ang character ni Uma Thurman dahil hindi sya makacope up sa super power abilities ni Uma which is alibi lang naman dahil ang totoo is in love na sya sa character ni Anna Faris. E bakit nung naging superwoman na rin si Anna Faris hindi yon naging issue kay Luke Wilson... tama ba yon?????????????


Bottomline: Based sa mga movie na napanood ko... Men tend to make issues kapag ayaw na nila sa isang babae, kesyo nagiging control freak na, makulit, possesive, nagger etc etc yet hindi naman talaga yon ang totoo issue, they just want their way out to find another woman. If they really love the woman di ba gagawin nila ang lahat para magkaayos? Hindi yun magpapalit sila ng babae and the same problem will happen over and over again.

At saka if they do not love the woman anymore, just say it, hindi yun isisisi nila sa babae at heto naman babae magiging masama ang loob dahil sya ang may kasalanan ng lahat.... Men!!!!!!!! GRRRRR!




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