Situational eklavu para sa mga Single Ladies

Anong gagawin mo kapag nabuntis ka at tsaka mo lang nalaman na may asawa na pala ang boyfriend mo?


Hmm mahirap sagutin yan.... Isa kang dalaga na walang ibang pinangarap kundi matagpuan ang prinsipe ng iyong buhay. Heto si lalaki, nagpakilala bilang single and available. Gagawin ang lahat para paibigin ka at ihihiga ka sa malarosas na kama pakalipas ng ilang araw para makamit ang minimithing ... ehem! Pagkatapos makalipas ng ilang buwan, magsusuka ka, magpapatingin sa doktor, may laman na pala. Hihilingin mo ngayon sa "boyfriend" mo na pakasalan ka, yun pala hindi pwede dahil may sabit na sya.

Tapos sasabihin mo sa sarili mo, "ang t@nga-t@nga ko..pumatol ako sa may asawa?? then nag pabuntis pa.. darn!"


Napakasaklap! Hiningi ko ang opinyon ng mga kadalagahan hingil sa isyung ito at heto ang kanilang mga sagot:

"I am single. If ever I will be impregnated by a married man, I will keep the baby and won't ask from the father for any financial support. I can support the baby by myself. I won't even allow my child to use his father's name even if it’s already allowed by law. I won't even allow my child to know who his father is because I don't want him to recognize a deceitful man as his father. Deceitful because I only came to know that he is married after we were already sexually involved and carrying his child. Thank you na lang sa sperm nya at nagkababy ako. It is my fault also since I did not investigate his character and status before opening up my legs to him."


"Single: I'll deal with me being pregnant. No blame for anyone. If i do find out that my bf is already married to someone else then i'll accept that fact...needless to argue about it. I'll get out of his life or he gets out of mine because i cant stand liars and i wont put up with it. I will raise the child by myself and give it all the love i could.

and i will thank the Lord for blessing me with a child...to me that is the most precious gift i will receive...with a partner or without."


"maybe kilalain mo muna mabuti yun karelasyon mo, the real status.bago mo ispread yan mga binti mo.kung serious relationship talaga at aware ka. then contraceptives eh hindi kayo gumagamit..mag isip isip ka na
punta ka NSO check
CENOMAR - Certificate of No Marriage Record
The following are the information one needs to provide in securing a CENOMAR:

1. Complete name of the person to be certified
2. Complete name of the father
3. Complete maiden name of the mother
4. Date of birth
5. Place of birth
6. Complete name and address of the requesting party
7. Number or copies needed
8. Purpose for the certification

yun result niyan makikita mo.. kung nakasal na sya or what. edi huli mo ahahahaa!

then kung anjan na talaga ang bata.keep that baby but much as possible wag papabuntis sa may asawa.. kawawa ang bata."

"regrets always comes late...pero nandyan na yan eh..anong magagawa ko...i'll accept it na lang...then syempre makikipag-usap pa rin ako sa kanya...***** mas tama kung makipaghiwalay na lang ako at ask na lang him to support our baby..."

Kelangan talagang maging sigurista bago ipagkaloob ang puso at ibuka ang binti (ginaya ko lang ang term sa taas). Kung di talaga mapigilan ang tawag ng laman mano man lang bumili ng Trust sa tindahan! Mahirap ang situwasyon dahil bukod sa naloko ka na ay hindi ka pa makakapaghabol. Madali lang naman malaman kung ang lalaki ay niloloko ka. Kapag masyado yang defensive sa mga past nya, may tinatago yan. Karaniwan sa mga mister na simasideline pa ay magdadahilan na binata sya, nagbreak na sila ng kasinatahan nya, diborsyado sya, hiwalay na sya o ang worst is patay na ang misis nya. Where in fact, BUHAY na BUHAY si misis at walang kamalay malay sa pinaggagawa ni mister. At utang na loob, wag maniniwala kahit sabihin pa ng lalaki na iiwan nya ang misis nya para lang sa iyo dahil kung nakuha nyang gawin yan sa misis nya, di malabong gawin din yan sa iyo (Karma?).

Sa tingin mo ba kakayanin ng konsensya mo kung alam mong habang ikaw ay nagsasaya may nawasak namang pamilya?

Siguro kung sa akin mangyayari yun, pagkatuklas ko pa lang na may asawa sya kahit may laman na ang tyan ko ay lalayo ako. OK lang dati dahil inosente ako at wala akong kamuwang muwang pero once na nalaman na ang tunay na situation. aware na ako na nakasira pala ako ng buhay. Buhay nung mister, buhay nung misis at kung may anak sila pati buhay ng mga bata.. HIndi ko rin ibibigay ang karapatan ng tatay sa anak ko. Kung pinagkait nya sa akin ang katotohanan, ganon din sya sa karapatan ng bata. Makakaya kong buhayin ang anak ko. Paano kung nagpumilit na magbigay ng suporta ang mister? Hindi ko pa rin tatanggapin. Bakit? Maawa ako sa asawa nya. Habambuhay yun tatatak sa isip ng misis nya. At baka pagsimulan pa yun ng alitan nila. Pwede naman magsimula ng panibagong buhay at makatagpo ng isang lalaking tunay na magmamahal ng walang kasinungalingan...

Whew! ang haba. Basta ang masasabi ko lang kawawa naman ang nasa ganitong situawyon pero masosolve pa rin naman ang problema basta itama ang mali at wag ng manira ng pamilya.

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Story of Marriage

MARRIAGE

When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I've got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.

Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly.

She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?
I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Dew. I didn't love her anymore. I just pitied her!

With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company.

She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Dew so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.

The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Dew.

When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.

In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but needed a month's notice before the divorce.
She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month's time and she didn't want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.

This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day.

She requested that everyday for the month's duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.

I told Dew about my wife's divorce conditions.... She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.

My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was expli cit ly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mummy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don't tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this woman carefully for a long time... I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her.. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.

On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me.

On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn't tell Dew about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.

She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily..

Suddenly it hit me... she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.

Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it's time to carry mum out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.

But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life lacked intimacy...

I drove to office.... jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind... I walked upstairs. Dew opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Dew, I do not want the divorce anymore.

She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Dew, I said, I won't divorce.. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of our lives, not because we didn't love each other any more. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart.

Dew seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away.

At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I'll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.

That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed - dead.



The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank, blah..blah...blah. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves.. So find time to be your spouse's friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!

I am HAPPY

I believe in good and bad karma
I do not destroy relationships
I always speak for the truth
I am a family-loving person
I have a clear conscience
I am not hurting anyone
I am not a home wrecker
I save marriages
I am lookin good
I am feelin good
I am doin good
I am faithful
I am strong
I am Happy

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