Story of Marriage

MARRIAGE

When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I've got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.

Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly.

She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?
I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Dew. I didn't love her anymore. I just pitied her!

With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company.

She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Dew so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.

The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Dew.

When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.

In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but needed a month's notice before the divorce.
She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month's time and she didn't want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.

This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day.

She requested that everyday for the month's duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.

I told Dew about my wife's divorce conditions.... She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.

My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was expli cit ly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mummy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don't tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this woman carefully for a long time... I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her.. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.

On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me.

On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn't tell Dew about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.

She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily..

Suddenly it hit me... she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.

Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it's time to carry mum out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.

But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life lacked intimacy...

I drove to office.... jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind... I walked upstairs. Dew opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Dew, I do not want the divorce anymore.

She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Dew, I said, I won't divorce.. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of our lives, not because we didn't love each other any more. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart.

Dew seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away.

At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I'll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.

That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed - dead.



The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank, blah..blah...blah. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves.. So find time to be your spouse's friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!

I am HAPPY

I believe in good and bad karma
I do not destroy relationships
I always speak for the truth
I am a family-loving person
I have a clear conscience
I am not hurting anyone
I am not a home wrecker
I save marriages
I am lookin good
I am feelin good
I am doin good
I am faithful
I am strong
I am Happy

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Ang Kwento ng Love Birds

Mula ng bumalik ako sa bicol, palagi akong dumadalaw sa bahay ng lola ko. Napakasaya doon bukod kasi sa makukulit kong mga pinsan hindi doon nauubusan ng masasayang usapan. Palagi ko rin nilalaro ang mga pets doon. Meron silang aquarium na maraming goldfish at meron ding love birds.

Aliw na aliw akong pagmasdan ang mga love birds. Ang sweet kasi nilang tingnan (kaya nga love birds eh). Patalon talon lang at panay ang tutukaan, huni lang sila ng huni sa loob ng kanilang hawla.

Kamakailan pagbalik ko, napansin kong isa na lang yun ibon sa loob ng hawla. Tinanong ko kung nasaan na ang isa. Ang sabi ng tiyahin ko nabagsak daw ng pinsan ko yun hawla. Nabuksan iyon kaya nakawala yun lalaking ibon. Naiwan yun babaeng ibon. Hindi na nga daw kumakain at matamlay.

Pinagmasdan kong mabuti yun babaeng ibon. Sa isip isip ko, dyaskeng lalaking ibong yan. Nakakita lang ng pagkakataon ayun at kumawala na. Iniwan na ang partner nya. Ano na kaya ginagawa ng lalaking ibon na yun? Buhay pa kaya sya? Masaya ba sya? Namungad na kaya sya sa iba? Kawawa naman yun babae, naiwan sa hawla, hindi naman sya makaalis. Baka mamatay kasi hindi na kumakain. Nakakalungkot...

Pagbalik ko ng sumunod na linggo, nagulat ako dahil buhay pa ang ibon. Di pa rin gaanong kumakain subalit nanatili syang buhay. Patalon talon pa rin sya at humuhuni kahit mag isa.

Ibon lang sila pero nakakalungkot isipin kasi nangyayari rin ito sa buhay ng tao. Parang may isang lalaki, nakita lang ng pagkakaton, iniwan ang asawa at "namungad" sa iba. Naiwan si misis, nakatali sa pangalan nya, nakakulong sa hawla ng kasal, malungkot pero wala syang magawa..

Parang pantelenovela at medyo nakakatawang paghambingin pero may pagkakatulad hindi ba? Nasaan na yung lalaki? Meron pa bang natitirang ni katiting na konsensya sa katawan nya? Ang importante lang ay kung ano ang nararamdaman nila (saan?). Wala silang respeto sa nararamdaman ng asawa nila.

At para sa mga babaeng may katulad na sitwasyon, Nanatili man sya sa hawla ng kasal ay pinagpatuloy pa rin nya ang buhay nya.Unti unti, matatanggap din ito at patuloy na mabubuhay kahit wala ang walang kwentang asawa. Kahit hindi pwedeng magkaboyfriend o magkaanak sa iba.


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Sanctity of Marriage...

Sa huwes man o sa simbahan, iisa ang sinusumpaan ng mag asawa.

"I, ___ take you, ___ for my wife/husband, to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part."

Nagsumpaan silang magsasama habang buhay. Kahit anong mangyari sila pa rin...

Ang kasal ay isang seremonya kung saan pinagbubuklod ang dalawang nilalang, sa harap ng batas, sa harap ng tao at sa harap ng Diyos (para sa mga Kristyano). Kung tutuusin napakasagrado ng seremonyang ito.

Bata pa lang ako, pinamulat na sa akin ang kahalagahan ng kasal. Para sa akin, ito ang nagbubuklod sa dalawang nilalang para maging isa at makapagtaguyod ng isang masayang pamilya. May mga pagkakataon na merong mga mag asawa na hindi nabibiyayaan ng supling, subalit hindi pa rin yon hadlang para sila ay hindi matawag na pamilya.

Lumaki ako sa pamilyang punung puno ng pagmamahal at pagpapahalaga. isang taon pa lang ako nasa malayo ang tatay ko para magtrabaho, naging matapat sya sa nanay ko. Dalawang taon pa ang nakalipas bago ako isinilang, pero hindi yun nakapagpabago sa pagsasama nila kahit nasa Mindoro ang tatay ko at minsanan lang kung umuwi. At hanggang ngayon kami'y nanatiling buo. Noong umabot ako sa kolehiyo, muli itong nabigyang halaga ng psychology teacher ko. Hindi rin ako naniniwala sa live in. Ang sabi ko sa sarili ko, balang araw, kapag nakatagpo ako ng nilalang na para sa akin ay mamahalin ko ng buong buo. Mamumuhay ako ng naaayon sa batas ng tao, at ng sanlibutan. . Pagpapahalagahan ko ang kasal dahil iyon ay sagrado.

Pero bakit may mga taong hindi naniniwala o nagpapahalaga sa kasal?

Sa panahon ngayon, kaliwa't kanan ang hiwalayan... iba't iba ang dahilan. May nagbabago ang isip, may nambabae, may nakakabuntis ng iba, may nambubugbog, may nanlalalake at iba pa. Bakit kahit kinasal na sila naiisipan pa rin nila ito? Dahil ba sa kawalan ng respeto? Kawalan ng pagmamahal? O walang pagpapahalaga sa sinumpaan?

Nakakalungkot isipin.... ilang na lang ba ang tao sa mundo ang naniniwala sa kasal? Mga taong nagbibigay respeto dito? Nakakalungkot pero siguro nabibilang na lang sa daliri...

Ang kasal ba sa ngayon ay maituturing na sa papel na lang? Kadalasan ko yang naririnig. Sa papel lang yan!!! Ang sakit pakinggan. Hindi ka naman pumayag magpakasal kung hindi mo mahal ang pakakasalan mo di ba. Hindi ka manunumpa kung wala ka naman balak magtagal. Hindi ka manunumpa kung hindi ka rin maninindigan. Pinipilit mong magpakabuti pero sadyang may mga taong walang respeto sa kasal at sa kapwa.

Posible kaya na may kinalaman ang kinagisnan ng isang nilalang? Posible ba na kapag lumaki sa broken family ang isang tao ay mawalan sya ng respeto sa kasal o sa kanyang asawa? Siguro...

Subalit hindi ko naman sinasabi na ang isang tao ay magpakaperpekto. Paminsan minsan ay nagkakamali rin. Subalit ang pinakaimportante ay ang marealize ang pagkakamali. Humingi ng tawad sa asawa (o kung di man masabi, bawiin sa ibang bagay), at wag ng uliting muli ang ginawang kasalanan. Magsilbing liksyon na ang pagloloko at kawalan ng respeto sa asawa ay walang maidudulot na buti sa ating buhay.

Mahalin ang asawa, mahalin ang pamilya. Magbigay ng respeto at pagmamahal para sa tahimik at maligayang pagsasama.

Pamper and Style

Eheads Reunion Concert

Sa wakas makakapanood na ako ng concert ng eheads at take note sa reunion concert pa nila.

High school pa lang kasi ako super fan na ako ng eheads, naalala ko noon 4th year kami at palagi kong kinakanta at pinagparaktisan sa gitara ang toyang at pare ko. College ako nung makabili ako ng album ng eheads (katas ng scholarship allowance hehehhe)yun cutterpillow. Halos muntik ng kainin nung cassette yun tape kasi paulit ulit na lang sa pagplay..

College din ako nun nung nagkaroon ng concert ang Eheads sa Legazpi City. Super excited ako non at talagang pinamalita ko sa classmates ko.. ang kaso... gabi ng concert yun best friend ko na nangako na sasamahan ako nagback out!!!!!!!! Ayun hindi ako nakapanood tapos yun mga classmate ko na wlang ka interes interes eh sila pa ang natuloy at nasa unahan pa.

At sa hinaba haba ng panahon.. sino ba ang mag aakala na sa wakas ay may reunion sila... sa tulong ng aking friend na moderator ng The Dawn Listers na si Anjabel.. sinama nya ako sa VIP list ni Buddy (o di ba ang saya!!!!)...

Excited na talaga ako...super super super!!!!



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Cebu Pacific, Its time Your Money Flies!

Last April, my friend requested me if I could use my credit card to purchase her ticket, so on April 14, 2008, i bought an online round-trip ticket to manila-singapore. However, much with my carelessness, I mistakenly inputed her last name on the first name field without checking it had it confirmed. The following day, I called the customer service hotline and I was infomed that its imposible to change the name so she advised to cancel the ticket instead, I was also told that I can get the refund in 4-6 weeks. On April 16, I cancelled the ticket and apply for a new one. On last week of May, my friend informed me that she needs to cancel the flight, so I had it cancelled through Cebu Pacific's website.


After six weeks, I was surprised to see that the refund was not reflected in my credit card statement.

I called the customer service hotline... after 45 minutes of listening to Cebu Pacific's jingle and recorded messages, finally I heared a live human voice (HORAY!).

I followed up on the refund's and found out that my refund request has not yet been attended to. After 6 weeks???? The CS told me that she already forwarded the request to their accounting department so I need to wait for it na lang. Still hoping that they would process my refund... I just said ok ang hung up.

After a month... there's still no refund reflected in my credit card statement. So I called Cebu Pacific again. The second time I followed up on the refund, And to my surprise, at the beginning of the call, the rep was clueless about my request and told me that they do not have those transaction numbers, losing my patience and with a high pitched voice, I said, I have a record of those transactions SO CAN YOU PLEASE CHECK?!!!! After 15 minutes, she found my transaction numbers and to my dismay, i was given the SAME RESPONSE. There was no progress at all, the account is still on que. She tried to calm me down by giving me the number to their accounting department, i took it down and called the number right after. GUESS WHAT. No one answers the phone! I gave up.

After four months, still no refund reflected in my credit card statement, I am getting the same response from their customer service and the sad part is... the credit card company is charging me interests for FOUR MONTHS NOW!!!!

So.. those who are planning to cancel their cebu pacific tickets.... think think think!!

ITS A BIG NO NO TO CANCEL YOUR TICKET, YOU WONT BE ABLE TO GET YOUR MONEY BACK!

Its part of their motto, "It's time everyone flies... if you wont be able to fly, they'll still let your money fly"!!!



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New Core Hours

Nagkaroon ng bagong policy sa office namin.. from 9 sets of core hours, ginawang 3 na lang at imbes na 4 hours naging 6 hours. C1: 8am - 2pm, C2: 2pm - 8pm, at C3: 10am - 4pm. Ang buong grupo namin ay naassign sa C2. So kung dati ay pumapasok ako ng 11-8:30pm so dapat ngayon ay either 8am or 9 ako pumasok para hindi ma late. Kung dati rin ay kaltas lang sa sweldo ang ginagawa kapag nalate ka, ngayon ay buo pa rin ang sweldo mo pero may memo naman na naghihintay sa iyo.


Ngayon ang implementation ng bagong shift namin pero kahapon ako nagsimulang pumasok ng maaga para makondisyon ang katawan ko. Grabe ang hirap pala... mula sa paggising ng maaga, hanggang sa pakikipagsiksikan sa nag aabang ng jeep dahil rush hour. Hay hirap. Pero ang kagandahan naman ay maaga akong nakakauwi at madami akong nagagawa sa bahay..

Sana lang ay di ako tamarin gumising sa umaga para hindi ako mabiyayaan ng memo...





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Ponds Bloggers Party

Here's another blogger's party!!

For: All bloggers
What: Taste of Beauty at Taste Asia (party!!!)
When: July 4, 2008, Friday, 7:00 p.m.
Where: Taste Asia (beside SM Hypermarket) at the Mall of Asia

The party is open to guys and gals! Guy bloggers must bring a girl friend and girl bloggers must bring more girl friends! To join, REGISTER HERE .






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Typhoon "Frank" Heads for Bicol

Update as of 5 pm: Typhoon "FRANK" has made landfall over Eastern Samar and is now heading towards Bicol region.

Strength: Maximum sustained winds of 140 kph near the center
and gustiness of up to 170 kph

Signal # 3:
Camarines Norte
Camarines Sur
Albay
Burias Island
Sorsogon
Catanduanes
Masbate
Samar Provinces
Leyte
Biliran Island

Signal # 2:
Quezon
Polillo Island
Marinduque
Romblon
Northern Cebu
Southern Leyte

Signal #1
Aurora
Rizal
Laguna
Batangas
Cavite
Mindoro Provinces
Metro Manila Antique
Aklan
Capiz
Iloilo
Rest of Cebu
Bohol
Siquijor Island
Negros Provinces
Guimaras Dinagat
Siargao Island

I just hope that Bicolanos have prepared for this typhoon, especially those residing in coastal areas, near mountain slopes, and rivers.

Let us all pray for the safety of everyone.

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Coke Event for Bloggers

Nabasa ko ito sa PBS yahoogroups:

What: Buhay Coke ng Bloggers with SM Hypermarket (party ito!)
When: June 27, 2008, Friday, 7:00 p.m.
Where: Taste Asia (beside SM Hypermarket) at the Mall of Asia
Why: Para magsaya! Loads of prizes up for grabs!

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Come in an angel or devil attire (or wear black, red or white) and get a chance to win more prizes!

Hmmm ano kaya ang isusuot ko? Devil kaya ako o Angel, hmmmmmmm!

Para magregister iclick po ito: REGISTER





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Sweldo day for Makati Senior Citizens

Napadaan ako sa Barangay Hall kaninang umaga at napansin ko na ang haba haba ng pila tapos may sumisigaw ng mga numbers. Nakausap ko tuloy ng wala sa oras si Manong Pedicab.

Ako: Manong, ano po yun, bakit madaming matatanda at saka ano yun tinatawag na numbers?
Manong Pedicab: Ah yun ba, sweldo ngayon ng mga senior citizens. Binibigyan sila 1000 pesos.
Ako: 1000 pesos wow naman! Para na din silang pensionado ng gobyerno!
Pedicab: Oo, 3 beses sa isang taon sila kung makatangap. Tuwing ika-apat na buwan. Pero makati lang ang gumagawa nun.
Ako: Sana sa ibang municipalities din meron din nyan...

Bukod sa 1000 pesos na natatanggap nila, meron pa silang cake tuwing birthday or wedding anniversaries, P3,000 burial assistance at libreng sine! O san ka pa!

At least naman sa haba ng panahon ng pinagtrabaho nila, naranasan din nilang ma-enjoy ang tax na nakaltas sa kanila.

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4 Months Maternity Leave

Good news mga mommy!

Posibleng maging 4 buwan ang dating 2 buwan na maternity leave na prebilihiyo ng mga nanganganak.

Ito ang panukalang inihain ni Sen. Antonio Trillanes IV. Sa Senate Bill 2383 ni Sen. Trillanes, ikina­tuwiran nito na mahalaga ang ginagampanang pa­pel ng mga kababaihan sa ‘nation-building’ at dapat lamang mapangalagaan ang kapa­ kanan ng mga ito lalo pa’t dumaan sila sa pa­nganganak.

Ang tanong, umayon kaya dito ang mga kumpanya lalo na ang mga nasa private? Hindi kaya masyadong matagal ang 4 months lalo na't paid ito? Meron kayang gagawing hakbang ang SSS or GSIS para iadjust ang benefits nila?

Pero para sa akin, sana matuloy ito para sa ikabubuti ng mga ina at ng kanilang mga baby.

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GMA's No Uniform Policy

Engot tong si GMA, pagbaba kaya ng presyo ng gasolina ang atupagin nya hindi yang mga kung anu anong kaistupiduhang idea yang pinagbibigay nya.

Karamihan ng mga studyante sa pinas ay mahihirap, tuwing pasukan nakakuha ng uniform ang mga public school students sa pamamagitan ng: (1) pabigay ng kanilang baranggay o munisipyo, (2) hand-me-down galing sa kapatid, kamag anak, kapitbahay, o kahit kanino, (3) patahi. Karamihan sa kanila ay merong 1-2 pares ng uniform lamang.

Dahil sa kakontian ng uniform nila, karamihan ay wash and wear lang, yun tipong pagkahubad laba agad. Kung tutuusin tipid ito sa karamihan dahil iyon ang susuutin nila sa araw araw.

Dagdag pa dito ang seguridad ng mga bata. Sa internetan, hindi pinapapasok ang mga batang nakauniform kapag oras ng klase. Bawal din sila sa bilyaran at mga malls

Ngayon kung ipapatupad ang civilian, mas hindi yan afford ng mga magulang. Sino ba naman ang magkakagusto na mag araw araw ng damit?? Karamihan sa mga batang iyan, nagkakaron lang ng bagong damit kapag pasko o bday. Buti naman kung pagsuotin sila ng pambahay yun tipong tshirt at short ok na. Idagdag pa dito ang mga epal na teacher na hihigpitan pa ang mga studyante at oobligahing magsuot ng shirt na may kwelyo at magsapatos para magmukhang "neat".

Pagdating naman sa mga high school students marami dyan ang mga sobrang fashionista na porket bago at magaganda ang suot ng kaklase eh pipilitin ang mga magulang na bumili ng bagong damit kahit na ang mga magulang eh gumagapang na sa katatrabaho at lubog na sa utang. Tapos kapag hindi napagbigyan, magmamaktol! Hay naku!



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Globe and TM PER SECOND PANALO!

Be one of the lucky winners of Globe and TM Per Second Panalo! Win a Honda CRV* in the Grand draw, 12 weekly prizes of a Honda City*, GCASH up to P1,000 every minute from 12pm to 12am, and FREE fun and exciting downloads! You can also win an LG KU250 phonekit in the special draw!


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